marriage, for real.

Tuesday, July 12, 2011


ed and i did NOT get along this weekend. nor could we agree on ANYTHING. i wanted froyo, he wanted ice cream, i wanted to nap, he wanted to go for a run, i wanted to go out for dinner, he wanted to stay in.

ed, when you read this on your lunch break, we're having chicken/veggie fajitas for dinner. chicken for you, veggies for me. see how that works? compromise. 

after a long lazy sunday morning, we got restless and wanted some exercise before dinner. he wanted to go to the gym, i wanted to go on a bike ride. i won that fight because i'm not a member of his shmancy downtown gym. bike ride it is.

somewhere around riverside drive and 122nd street we decide to turn around. ed wants to take a shortcut through (the hilly) morningside heights. i wanted to take the same route back since my ghetto vintage bike makes going up hills suicidal.

and that was it.... i had enough. neither of us wanted to budge. at that very moment, i couldn't stand to look at him anymore. i jumped on rosario (the name of my ghetto vintage bike), merged onto riverside drive, and yelled "have fun on your effing hills" as i rode away.

by the time i reached home, a sweaty ed was waiting for me outside our apartment. no doubt the hills had kicked his ass. we looked at each other, put our bikes in the basement, and walked to chipotle hand in hand like nothing ever happened.


42 comments:

Sharon said...

haha love this

Hannah J. Holmes said...

bahahaha. don't you love those days! :)

PoetessWug said...

Yep! Sounds like marriage alright! LOL Being married 29 years...(33 or so together though)...we always know that no matter what the argument, in the end hand in hand is how it 'has' to end...because nobody else could stand the two of us like we can!! LOL

A&E Harwell said...

i love this... thanks for being real. and i love, love that picture of you two!

Jill said...

Gotta love marriage!

Rebecca - A Daily Something said...

Can't wait for marriage ;)

la domestique said...

totally been there. for real. :)love this post.

B. in the Know said...

I really appreciate your honesty - helps us single ladies see it is not all flowers and romance, but still seems worth it!
Much love,
B

David and Elizabeth said...

I love this post!
sounds exactly like mine :)
the best part of arguing is making up!

JenLynn said...

So true. No one said that love and living with "boys" would be easy.

Rebeka said...

As a single lady, I totally appreciate your honesty here. This post is totally inspiring and I like it, a lot :)
Thanks for sharing!

jillian m. said...

Ha! Great story. I guess it's safe to assume the honeymoon stage is over?

There are days when me and the boy just can not get it together! But the times that we are in sync make it all worth it.

Ren- Lady Of The Arts said...

This made me laugh out loud- "have fun on your effing hills"
I've been married for almost eleven years- I'm really lucky Dr. J forgives me every time- and that he is not as quick to anger as I am.

Holly said...

haha yep, this is how it is sometimes.

Ana Degenaar said...

Oh yes, this happens. Compromise is a magic word here.

Chelsea Elizabeth. said...

Oh jeez, I'm not even married to my boyfriend and that sounds like us. We always argue to eachother that we need to "compromise".
Boys just dont get it sometimes.

<3Chelsea Elizabeth
http://www.organizedxxmess.blogspot.com

mary shouvlin said...

love this, real life, down & dirty.
thanks for sharing :)

Krystal said...

that made me smile :) mark and i have our fair share of those arguments. I love that we don't ever hold it against eachother after awhile and it's def like it didn't happen :)

Andrea@FancyThat! said...

He he. It's nice to know you'll still be together after the fight:)

la petite coquine said...

This makes me smile. I once shrieked at John that he should never operate a laundry machine, then stormed out of the room...forcing him to operate the laundry machine. But when you hold hands and let it go, there's no better feeling.

Silver Strands said...

:)

linds.eliz said...

this was awesome to read. too funny and too true.
thanks for such honesty--makes us all feel "normal" :)

Dhila Backstrom said...

bwahahahahah..... Sounds like an argument between my husband and I. I could totally relate...

Tatiana said...

Haha. That's too funny! It's good that you're able to get it out and then get over it. I have the bad habit of doing the whole silent treatment for a couple of days. Your way is much healthier :-)

PS: Thanks for stopping by and your sweet comment! Looking forward to getting to know ya :-)

Gaby [The Vault Files] said...

hahaha so funny! My sister in law always puts names to everything and I always have so much fun pitching in my picks ;)

adele said...

So funny! Life is about compromise, or having your own interests 7 not doing everything together!!!
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pamwares said...

this was a fun and real read! loved it.

colleen said...

i love this! but isn't ok to want different things some nights and not the same things like in terms of exercise? also, i'm not married so i'm kind of full of sht and have no idea how it works. just throwing that out there.

rebecca said...

colleen-
you are absolutely right. we certainly don't have to do everything together. we just try to be together as much as possible on the weekends because our weekdays are so hectic.

kitchu said...

smiling at your reality that sounds so much like mine :) marriage is beautiful, ugly, mundane, and heroic, all at once.

Jessi said...

My husband and I totally had that same disagreement today! But I wanted ice cream and he wanted fro-yo.
We have definitely had those days, weekends, weeks, months where we just don't agree on anything. Oh marriage.. Such a beautiful mess it can be :)

Jessica said...

Love this! Sounds exactly like my marriage.

Inessa said...

Great post for all married couples and I have been there many times even before we got married! The reality of it made me laugh, and this is not a funny either!

Autumn said...

I started laughing so hard. This is totally marriage right here.

Stacey Sargent said...

"Have fun on your effing hills" This made me laugh out loud. So something I would have said! We so have those weekends where we just butt heads, but always end up laughing about it later! I can be stubborn mule sometimes! Great post!

Jamie said...

LOL! I love it. My husband and I don't fight often, but when we do, we don't get over it quite as fast as you! Lucky!

Laura said...

thanks for the comment on my blog! i love this post!! seriously, sometimes husbands are so irritating, and sometimes for no good reason- even though we love them to pieces! :)

leigh said...

For a second, I felt terrible for laughing at your fight. Then, I realized that I CAN laugh because I'm married too. Right? :) :)
Thanks for stopping by my blog--I'm thoroughly enjoying yours!
Love, Leigh

Lisa said...

This is life! (Not that I would know because I'm not married) BUT! I think it's awesome, brave and real of you to share. Perhaps I look forward to fights like this. xo!

KimBerly said...

I am so glad you commented on my blog because I absolutely LOVE yours. I just started reading and love the way you write. This post made me smile.

Anonymous said...

"...he wanted to go to the gym, i wanted to go on a bike ride..."

The answer to that conundrum? ...How about he goes to the gym and you go on a bike ride. Both alone. By yourselves without the other person's approval.

Take it from a couple who has never fought in our two decades together: In our experience, knowing when to separate is absolutely the key to a happy marriage. When in doubt, read some literature on this subject and it'll steer you in the right direction: http://www.coda.org/

Verity Kae said...

I love this post! I just discovered your blog and I'm so flipping glad I did because it's so real and incredibly hilarious! My hubs and I do have that kind of afternoons and it's the greatest when it's like it never happened! Anddd from a more recent post, I'd TOTALLY be your friend if I lived not across the country! People think we're weird for getting married too! I love love love this.

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