nyc changes you.

Tuesday, August 16, 2011


i hate it when people claim that their town is the coolest place ever and there is absolutely no where else you could possibly live. truth is, your town is right for YOU, not everyone else, and that's why you live there. sometimes we learn to love the town we are in because a job pulled us there. but for the most part, we are actively choosing to live where we do.

ed and i knew we wanted to live in nyc, and luckily ed's job landed us here. we went into the first few months with apprehension, but we immediately knew the city was for us. 

the internet went down the other night after a brief thunderstorm and i found myself looking through old pics. ed and i always talk about how new york has changed us. not necessarily for the better or worse, just change. 

besides wearing a lot more black, our style has definitely evolved. to walk around the city and not be influenced by the fashion that's smacking you in the face would be a waste. 

the food scene in nyc is overwhelming and mind blowing. we eat things here that i never would have tried anywhere else, nor could i find it anywhere else. when we drive away from the city, the food sucks. sorry, but it's true.

my attitude has definitely changed as well. ed and i used to tell each other "new york up." which meant.... man up and take care of business. the traffic, noise, and hustle has hardened me a bit. 

we have lived in nyc for 3 years and look forward to some day raising a kid in this crazy city.

29 comments:

Kim said...

I love this post! I feel the same way about San Francisco - the (almost always) cold weather, crowded streets and ambulance noise 24/7 makes you tougher. But at the end of the day, it's totally worth it. Not for everyone - but for us. And I haven't ruled out the idea of raising kids here either ;)

Katie said...

pretty picture! and it's so true.

laura said...

Very true. I noticed myself becoming more New York within a month of moving here, and 3 1/2 years later I'm definitely different than I was. Still the same girl at heart, of course, but with more toughness, better self-reliance and different tastes than before.

And yeah, the food is basically life-changing. ;)

dreamday said...

haha. love it!!! how can you help but become a part of it. it's a fabulous place. wish i could visit more often. :)

sherri lynn said...

Interesting post! Now I want to move to NYC just for the food!

PoetessWug said...

I've never lived there, but I have family and friends who do and have been in and out of the city for many things. I think you're right...it changes people. Not for the better or worse. Just change. The expression "New York Attitude" is true...and palpable if you spend any time in the city...Great post!

adele said...

NYC is one of my fave cities, would love to live there xoxo
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BigAppleNosh said...

Congratulations on the 3 years! :)

rebecca said...

laura-
couldn't have said it better myself.

Kirstin said...

your comment about "New York up" reminded me of Jane Borden's book "I Totally Meant To Do That" have you read it? Her account of how NYC changed her views on some things is hilarious

Brandi {not your average ordinary} said...

I think any place we live changes us -- and I've definitely been to enough cities to know there isn't a single "coolest" one. New York has my heart in a way the others don't, though I even found a place for San Diego in there over the past two years. When I lived in NYC, black did take over my wardrobe (that part I don't miss so much), but it was my place to experiment with food too...and grow as a person. I'm glad to be back right now.

Vanessa said...

I think you're right. I can feel it happening already... It's funny how a place can impact you so deeply. I think most people love where they are, but there's something different about New York; it's got a character like no other place I've ever been.

Kari said...

Where did you live before?

Abby said...

I love NYC and would love to try living there- or pretty much any big city for that matter- but my husband feels about SLC/Utah the way you feel about NYC. This is his home and he loves it. I love it, too. It's nice to feel at home wherever you live.

Where did you live before NYC?

Vivian said...

NYC is an AMAZING place. Completely agree with what you say about the food...anywhere else it does SUCK! In fact the food choices is on of the things I miss the most about that city. And I wish I would have been able to raise a child there...

HazelandMare said...

You are so awesome :) I love visiting NYC- it is one of my favorite places. I definitely agree though that sometimes you you just fall in love with a city. I love living in Baltimore, and I've tried living a few other places, but I always come back here like a magnet. I miss it when I'm away. I'm sure that's how you guys feel about New York!

rebecca said...

kirstin-
thanks for the book rec. sounds right up my alley.

kari and abby-
we lived in nashville, tn before moving to ny.

The Franglaise said...

Hey lady, thanks for visiting my blog because it brought to this lovely place. This is an interesting post. I feel the same about Paris. Work and love brought me here and four years down the line I have become such a Parisienne. As you say, it's not good or bad - just different. On the other hand, since I became a mum I don't enjoy Paris the same way, mainly because it is not a baby friendly city. I'm enjoying my life as a Parisienne while it lasts, because I know in my heart that I don't want my little boy to grow up among all this concrete. It's not good or bad to grow up in the city - just a personal choice. Thanks for this insightful post lady! Bisous de Paris xx

la petite coquine said...

I've always been so appreciate of the places I've lived and grown up-NYC for the tough, take care of business exterior, Princeton for the prep, Baltimore for knowing when your New York tough will not keep you from GETTING SHOT and you should GET YOUR ASS OUT OF THERE, and San Francisco for the avocados. And other stuff, but mostly the avocados.

Whitney said...

thanks for sharing. we live in a small city in sc, but i've always felt drawn to "big" city life. i often wonder if we'll end up in one someday. while we enjoy running into friends often, being close to family, and a reasonably affordable cost of living, we do miss out on the culture (food, art, music, fashion, etc) that a big city provides.

Diane Writes said...

very well said rebecca, i hope i would be able to visit nyc in the future ;-)

Nikki said...

I always thought I would live in NY someday. I've never even been ;)

kylee said...

one place i'm dying to visit. new york city.

little t said...

Ha, New York Up is my new favourite phrase.

I've never been but would love to go.

skim said...

You know, my attitude hasn't changed that much since moving from Ohio but I think that's because I had plenty of sass and manning up to do before I moved here. I know that my best friend (who moved here a year before me) and I agree that if we had moved here directly out of college and not in our thirties we would have had a very different and formative experience. Strangely enough, my street smarts and being able to stand up for myself came from dealing with walking down High Street when attending Ohio State and being harassed multiple times a day by frat boys telling me to show them my tits. Is that not disgusting?!?! After a couple months I couldn't take it anymore and started yelling back at them. Ridiculous, but thankful that I went through it to learn how to defend myself when necessary.

skim said...

So basically in Ohio I was a dick but I fit right in here in NYC! Wheeeeee! (Mostly kidding. :D)

kitchu said...

i have lived in big cities my whole life. (never new york. SIGH.). now i live in a small college town. i never saw myself in a small college town. it has grown on me. not like, grown ON me, but you know... i call it home.

but in a new york minute, i would call your home my home. i so would. it's my fave vacay spot. remember. past life. me and new york. GOOD FRIENDS.

Christine said...

I never lived in NYC but I lived in the suburbs of NJ just outside of the city for almost 15 years. About 5 years ago I picked up my life to follow the man I love to Southern CA and I am longing to get us back there for good but my husband loves it here and I can't seem to convince him that we are missing so much. I want to raise my kids near culture which in the OC is very hard to find. Someday!!!!

Michelle Lee said...

i want to visit NY sometimes!

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