are we small business owners?

Wednesday, September 14, 2011


change is in the air, and i don't mean the weather. i also don't mean the kind of change that will happen in just a few months. more like a general shifting of things.

ed and i have always felt like we were meant to do something different than everybody else. there's no way to say that without sounding like a pretentious asshole. but if you knew us, you would know that's not the case.

over the past year or so, we have been throwing around this idea of starting a bakery in the hood. not like "we could put sam wiggins on the logo!" more like "where's page 2 of the business plan?"

we have a name, which i'll keep to myself, and we have an idea that would make us different than other bakeries in a 10 block radius. or most of manhattan for that matter. i'll also keep that to myself. not that i don't trust you guys, but, well, i don't trust you.

whether it happens or not depends on a lot of things. we need investors, money saved up, and a remarkable business plan. those are a lot of variables being tossed in the air that may or may not land in our favor.

but it's an itch we have to scratch. something about it feels right. like it was meant for us. we don't want to have kids in the next 10 years..... that's right, 10 years.* i'm 27, you do the math. how many couples our age can say that? we have few friends that don't already have kids, or aren't TRYING to make some babies like it's their job.** there's nothing wrong with that. but it's not right for us. not right now.

doesn't that say something? if we don't want to bring small humans into the world in the next 10 years, shouldn't we be doing something huge with these next 10 years? maybe we haven't put our finger on it with this bakery thing, but something is in the works. i feel it.

ps: on a non-serious note, check the rapping flight attendant.

*when i'm preggers in 2 years, you can say i told you so. 
**i've now offended almost everyone in 1 single post. 

39 comments:

stefany said...

I'm 28 and still claim to be on the 10 year baby plan - despite the fact my friends mostly have kids and our families all want us to have kids! - so I totally hear you! :)

stefany said...

but what I meant to say was how exciting for you two to be scratching the itch! keep us posted!

Cassy said...

Hahaha you are so funny. Thanks for sharing. Made me laugh.

JenLynn said...

What an exciting idea. I often think of running my own business but I never think of the next steps. I hope this works out, I'm sure it will be great.

Naurnie said...

i say go for it. i'm 29 and recently was laid off from my job... i'm attempting to start up my own PR company. that shit ain't easy. but sooo worth it.

laura said...

Please do it and open it right next door to my apartment, k?

But seriously folks, it's been a dream of mine to open a bakery when I eventually leave NYC (although who knows when that will be), so I'm excited for you. Can't wait to see how it turns out!

The Rigolosos said...

Oh! I can feel the excitement in the air! But really, please consider putting Sam Wiggins on something. He's just too cute to pass up!

Also, I am 28. My husband is 31. We have no clue where babies fit into our plan. We want them, but to try to plan the 'perfect timing'?! Geez, that's a lot of pressure.

jen said...

Having your own business is both extremely rewarding and wholly frustrating at points. But I love your thinking - if you have the next 10 years free, you might as well do something HUGE. As for the whole having kids vs. waiting debate - we thought we were ready last summer. we got pregnant, then a few weeks later lost it and while it helped us figure out that yes, we absolutely want kids, it also helped us figure out that we wanted to make massive changes in our lives before we did that. Now - 14 months later we live in a completely new city, starting another new business, renovating a house...and I think we'll wait a few more years before getting on the baby train. Good luck with your business plan!

Krystal said...

i think that sounds SO very exciting. seriously, do it!

Kelly said...

Wow, That is so cool. I know exactly how you feel about not doing what everyone else does. GO FOR IT! While this isn't 100% true, it's something I do try to remember: You seldom regret the things you do, only the things you don't do.

la petite coquine said...

I don't blame you for not trusting me. I would totally open a non-franchised branch in SF, because this thing sounds pretty amazing. Do it, and make us all wish we could read your mind.

Sydney said...

Do it. I think that's a fantastic idea, even if it is in the beginning stages. When this thing takes off, I'm betting the food will be so good that I fly in every. month. to have some and hang out with you cool people and meet Sam Wiggins. Who, by the way, has the cutest dog name ever.

Mary said...

Go for it! Love the ambition and desire to do something big with your time. I'll admit there's a part of me that thinks I did not take full advantage of my 20s. I worked hard and traveled quite a bit, but did I do all I could have done? Hmmm.... You should definitely take risks now and enjoy your time. When it's time for a baby, you'll know.

rebecca said...

jen-
wow. thanks for sharing. proof that everything truly happens for a reason.

Michelle said...

Dream big and don't do what other people are doing just because other people are doing it. If I lived in Manhattan I would come to your bakery (maybe I will come when I visit NY one day)

Teresa said...

Why some people think that kids are obstacles!?

People - and sock: mothers - manage to climb mountains, run marathons, win tennis tournements, manage successful business with a bunch of them...

One doesn't prevent the other from happening.

If it did world would be filled of success but no one to share it with. Or full of miserable parents dragging kids along.

Wishing you the best for the new venture.

Lacy in the Sky with Diapers said...

I say DO IT! I started my business a year ago, it is a great idea, in demand, great product.. bla bla bla I could go on! What it is lacking is my time. I have two kids that I love dearly, but fact of the matter is, I can't put as much time into it to get the ball rolling as much as I wish.. Anyways good luck and I can't wait to visit your yumminess in the future!!

T Welch said...

Hey Becca! Love your blog and I wish you the best of luck with the bakery thing. I *AM* one of those people who is trying like it's my job to have babies right now, so I DO happen to be a little sensitive to that comment. However, when you are told you have Stage 4 endometriosis, and can't have kids on your own, but it would be possible with IVF, however with my family's reproductive history/issues it's basically now or never, things change. I knew I wanted to be a mom one day, and probably soon... but when circumstances happen, things change. So... don't immediately judge people who are trying like it's their job to have a baby, because sometimes there are underlying factors. I still, however, think you are very cool and very chic and I'm sure you will be successful. :)

SJ said...

you're right, 10 years is ages, think of all that could be achieved, including a bakery! hell, you could have 5 bakeries in that time, why not?!

Brandi {not your average ordinary} said...

You absolutely need to do it. I'll help you however I can. Even if it's still partly a secret. Frankly, I think there's nothing better than seeing people follow a dream.

rebecca said...

brandi-
this is right up your alley! i could use your culinary expertise.

Elizabeth Harwell said...

becca, so proud and happy. i remember when you used to say that you would open a cupcake shop one day and i was all "just cupcakes?" and you were all "it would totally work."

and now look at what a fool i am.

you will do well. praying for opportunities!

juliana said...

do it! im 36 and still dreaming of it... im not quit sure its going to happend now! so its your time, make the busniss plan and try it!

Shannon said...

I vote to open the bakery and follow your dreams! I know exactly what you mean by feeling that you were meant to do something else. My husband and I feel that way all the time and are constantly brainstorming new business and creative ideas. However, don't be too much of a planner, there is no right time to have kids. I know people with kids of all different age groups, and everyone is stressed out, and no one is perfect. And even though now I am feeling like I could accomplish a lot more with my life if I didn't have an eighteen-month-old, I still know that everything is possible, and I couldn't live without him.

Good luck with your new business venture! I can't wait to hear more on the blog and will certainly visit your potential bakery next time I'm in NYC.

As a side note, my parents owned a bakery when I was a kid and even though it went bankrupt (not to scare you) I still have the most wonderful memories of baking with the giant ovens and my dad coming home and smelling like flour. And they did it with two kids under five.

Shannon
www.11thandshannon.com

rebecca said...

shannon-
you're so right. thanks for the inspiration. i'm such a planner, and there is no PERFECT time to have kids. i remember someone telling me once:

"you're NEVER really ready to have kids. but when they come, you're ready."

good advice.

skim said...

This is so exciting and I hope it all works out. I whole-heartedly support this! I would bike from Brooklyn and patron your bakery every weekend. :)

Making future plans with your partner is very exciting but I also understand the whole pragmatic side about deciding whether or not you want to have kids and when to have them! I work in the OB/GYN department of my hospital and infertility is something that we do deal with. My boss has jokingly mentioned looking into freezing eggs for the future (Seriously, I am not offending. I'm nearly 32 and Jon and I definitely don't want children in the next few years, if ever! I don't know!). As ridiculous as it sounds I've been thinking about it. I mean, our generation is all about options, right? So if I am having problems conceiving in the future then I'll have a back-up, and they will also be from a younger me (if that makes any sense). I guess we'll just have to see what happens in the next 10 years. You get $20 from me if you get pregnant first (I kid, I kid).

Good luck with the bakery! Keep us updated!

rebecca said...

skim-
free baked goods if i get prego first.

skim said...

You're on sister. :)

kylee said...

my best friend and i dream of opening a bakery someday. hope your bakery dreams come true!

Kim said...

So exciting! I'm 30, married for almost one year to my 32-year-old husband and have no immediate plans for children. Our friends and families think we should go for it since we both have decent jobs and are in good a good place. But . . . we're just not ready yet! We feel like we need to have a bit more time to enjoy ourselves, travel everywhere and take the occasional risk before we bring little ones into the world. Some say that you can do it all, but the reality for most of my friends with children is that they have had to sacrifice a lot.

I can't wait to hear more about your bakery plan as it develops (and after you patent your idea so that none of us can steal it)! Wishing you lots of luck :)

Katy said...

GO FOR IT!!!! ;-) I wish I had the guts to live my bakery dream... but I"m working on it. I have a couple jobs lined up in the next couple months for birthday parties and we'll see what happens from there! so excited to see where this goes for you guys! ;-) and as for the babies--- GOOD FOR YOU!

Petra said...

sounds like a great plan. you are not alone. a lot of people look for alternative life plans these days. school, work and family alone just doesn't seem to be enough any more... good luck!!

the sassy kathy said...

go for it!

also, my husband and i feel the exact same way, in a non-ass-holey way as well :)

kitchu said...

1. scratch that ITCH BITCH! (that's like, me giving you a high five, smiling, and totally with you, not like, calling you an ass-hole kind of bitch). totally stoked for you. do people say stoked anymore?
2. i wanna fly on that guys airplane. i hate to fly. he would make me feel happy about flying.

Ana said...

These are some exciting plan! I hope they come to fruition just as you imagined them, if not even better. I think that starting/owning a small business is definitely nerve-wracking but in the end, so worth it. I'm already thinking about some ideas myself for when I finish school.

Laura *You Stir Me* said...

so this is pretty darn exciting, huh? If you open it, I will come. Seriously, I could totally finally meet your adorable pup...and you guys! But no pressure. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders for starting a business - only you will know if it's meant to be...but it sounds pretty amazing:)

And ditto on the small humans thing. I'm the last of my friends to have kids and I'm only 29.

Alex said...

Good for y'all. I say go for it! Opening up a bakery would be hard work, but so much fun. Can't wait to visit it one day :)

Anonymous said...

Ohhhhhh you silly hetero breeders (chuckles to herself). The business of creating/raising other human beings in this world should be left to the gays...By virtue of our inability to create a human being to raise unless we carefully plan for it, we naturally put a LOT more thought into child rearing than most of you do, hence the pattern of (statistically) way less fucked-up children come from gay parents than straight parents.

(this is to the commenters, not to you Rebecca, you and your husband have WAY better heads on your shoulders than most straights do).

Sarah said...

"ed and i have always felt like we were meant to do something different than everybody else. there's no way to say that without sounding like a pretentious asshole."
The entrepreneurial impulse is not at all pretentious. 100 years ago pretty much everyone was a small business owner. It was hard to get ahead, but you worked your business and raised your family and felt proud of what you created. It is totally doable, as regular people, with average resources to found a successful business.

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