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Monday, October 10, 2011


i get a lot of questions as to why i grew out my pixie. people loved it, i loved it, and i'm sad to see it go. the pixie was bad ass. i woke up every morning and didn't have to fix my hair. does it get better than that?

i dress pretty boyish and it's a force i can't reckon with. i've stopped trying to change the fact.

the pixie was bigger than itself. it was the ultimate boyish move by chopping off my girlish locks. i was in heaven.

what i didn't think about was how it would effect the way i got dressed in the morning. my boyish clothes and boyish haircut didn't add up. because of the pixie, i was forced to dress more girly. i didn't mind at first, but it started to wear on me. i found myself putting on clothes that were "pixie appropriate."

lesson learned? you can't change your style, but you CAN take it too far. my hair is growing and growing and i'm envisioning ponytails and braids. though i may stick with the bob. either way, i'm back to the boyish clothes and couldn't be happier. nothing looks better with converse and flannel than a little hair on your head (for me, at least).

21 comments:

kitchu said...

i could top how short your hair was. i am pretty certain i batted for another team there for a bit (not that i would have even minded, mind you). but yeah, my hair was that short. pixie to the pixie hilt. but i hear you, i always felt i had to be a lot more feminine in my dress code to make up for that boy cut.

diggin' your socks.

amanda jane said...

cute shoes!

Katie said...

It's so true with the short hair. I had it for a few years in college and I loved it but always felt like I had to wear more eye makeup or lipstick, or dangly earrings. It's a tricky balance, and I'm not even that much of a tomboy!

Diana said...

I had a shaved head for a few years. It was heavenly but I also remember dressing more feminine that time in my life more than ever. I thought my hips and busty-ness would be enough, but nope!

Belle said...

I like a boyish style. But I get what you mean.

Rebecca - A Daily Something said...

LOVE this picture. Oh, and you're pretty famous. Saw you on designlovefest in the NYC blogshop video. You're so cute!

SJ said...

my style definitely changed when i cut all my hair off a few years ago and i found that lots of my clothes didn't work with the hair cut. it was actually kind of disheartening to stand in front of my closet to realise that my hair was dictating my style.

la petite coquine said...

My style is pretty preppy, read boyish, and I've always counted on my long hair to keep things balanced. While the pixie was totally badass, I think good things will come of this bob.

Petra said...

I never thought about it like that. I got a pixie cut three years ago, and I guess I did subconciously dress more feminine while I had it. now that my hair is long again I'm back to jeans, t-shirt and sneakers.

hmmmm... I've been debating to cut my hair short again. but now you have me question this move!

rebecca said...

rebecca-
ha! cat's out of the bag. that's my post for tomorrow. :)

SJ-
i couldn't have said it better myself. that's how i felt.

Brandi {not your average ordinary} said...

I had no idea that a haircut could so substantially change the way you dressed. Though, I have to admit, my wardrobe has been different these years I've been a redhead from the years I was blonde. I usually don't think too much about style -- I wear what I think flatters me and makes me feel confident. That's really what's important in my book.

Anonymous said...

This is a pretty hetero-normative post, no?

Silver Strands said...

I'm going through this exact situation. However ... once you have gray hair, your styles become even more limited. I don't want to look like I'm trying to be 20, but I don't want to look like a grandma either (I am one). It's a tough situation to be in. I haven't cut my hair in 2 months now ... so this is long for me. I now have to tuck it behind my ears ... I may not be able to hold out - I very well may end up chopping it again soon. I compensate by wearing big, dangly earrings. Hey - show us some pictures of your growing locks!

Stephanie said...

I know what you mean. I think a boyish look needs a touch of feminine just as much as a girly look needs a touch of masculine.

I totally have a crush on your oxfords, btw.

Ivana said...

I think it´s really important to keep things in balance,, too much boyish can be as difficult to pull off as too much girlie. So I´m really curious to see how you´ll style your new hair :)

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insideology.com said...

That's so true, many years ago I had a pixie crop and all my clothes looked weird. If I wore a skirt, particularly a floral or floaty one, it just looked odd and my haircut only worked with boyish clothes. I think your style is great btw x

kylie said...

Isn't strange that we all pretty much agree that a shorter haircut requires a more feminine style/look clothing and makeup wise. I have a very simple style myself and love jeans and comfy converse, flat boots/shoes and lots of plain layery-type clothes {like singlets, long/short sleeved tees and cardis}.

Alexandria said...

Just discovered you site and loving it. I was coincidentally having the same conversation with a friend of mine regarding my decision to grow out my hair.
I have had pixie cut since I was 15 years old and a trip to Paris had me envious of all the androgynous Parisian girls running around.
In the last 3 years, though, I have been growing out my hair and it is currently past my bust (mermaid style I like to call it). I did find that with short hair, my dresses to pant ratio was definitely tilted towards the former - even though my style leans a little more masculine.
Now, with longer 'feminine' hair, I found that I have no hesitation throwing on a pair of jeans, cuffed and worn with a pair of vintage brogues and an over sized t-shirt.
I do miss my short hair everyday, but the style options with longer hair are too great to pass up.

rebecca said...

alexandria-
yes! well said. like you, i miss the pixie. but i shouldn't have to dress according to my haircut.

Anonymous said...

I am currently in that situation.....I had hair up to my waist and suddenly wanted to change it and chopped it off. I dressed more tomboyish before and now with my short hair I go out of my way to dress more feminine. I wear blush, always wear earrings. I am currently in my mullet stage so it is really hard to love my hair right now.

Sonya said...

I just found your blog through A Cup of Jo and I, like you, am growing out the pixie. Judging from recent photos, I think we're on about the same page, hair length style and I totally agree with you on the dressing! I always felt like I had to be a little more dolled up than I wanted thanks to the pixie. It is somewhat precious and requires girly-girl style. I have bangs and a bob (shortest bob ever) now and I love it.

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