sleeping with pets.

Friday, May 18, 2012

irish wolfhound

sam wiggins sleeps in our bed every night, without fail. we often wonder if others do the same. i have never loved anyone the way i love sam... in a motherly sort of way. he makes us a family.

i see the way that ed loves sam and i know he will be an amazing father some day. funny how a pet can teach you so much about yourself. 

photo of zhivago the irish wolfhound via ulvehund.org.

38 comments:

Gita said...

Dogs are made for sleeping in bed.

xx
http://gita-oddsandends.blogspot.com/

Livia said...

I don't like this idea. Nothing against animals, loved them, had all the types os pet you can imagine before. But, knowing that a dog walks outside in dirty ny and then having them getting into my clean sheets and sharing a bed with me sounds quite nasty. If I myself leave my shoes outside the apartment in order no to get the dirty and germs. inside, why would I let my dog step into my bed?

I am Megan said...

Ah man, I have been wanting to write about this for quite some time, I just never get around to it. Maybe I'll do it this weekend.
And I fully and strongly believe that pets prepare us for parenthood, especially when your pups throw up on your bed in the middle of the night, or in your car.

The Bebebirds said...

Aw I think this is sweet :) And hey, if you love sam wiggins so much, just imagine how intensely you'll love your future kids! It's exciting!

Brooke

thebebebirds.blogspot.com

SreeBindu said...

I know the feel :) Adorable.
xoxo

Katie said...

Yup. I always thought it was dorky when newlyweds got a dog right away, but wow it taught us a lot about each other once we got our little pup. I think it improved our communication a lot as well.
Anyway, we tried the first night we got Desmond to have him sleep in a crate in our bedroom and it was the worst thing ever, he was so sad and scared. Once we let him in bed with us he settled right down. I'm sure we could have tried again after that night, but he's been in our bed ever since. He's a people dog, he wants to be with his people.

the southern hostess said...

So sweet. I have it ingrained in my mind that before we have a kid, we must have a dog.

Ana said...

I've been living with my boyfriend for six years now and last year we adopted a lovely dog. Although I do think Crème has somewhat prepared us for parenthood - having a dog makes you more responsible and teaches you about making sacrifices for another being - she is never allowed on our bed. I am a neat freak and despite loving her to bits, I am not a fan of fur and dust in the bedroom. She has her own little bed in the living room. I do kiss her goodnight though :p

Naurnie said...

Truman absolutely sleeps in the bed.

Aubrey said...

Yeah, co-sleeping with an animal is creepy to me but I may be excessive in my worry over germs. Clean white sheets are my pride and joy so unless doggy is taking a shower like I do every night, sorry but doggy is on the floor in his own bed.

JEREMYandCHELSEA said...

Both of our dogs sleep in our bed and we wouldn't have it any other way. They're the best snugglers. I think they've kind of prepared us for kids, at least a little bit.

sumslay said...

I swoooore my dog would never sleep in the bed with me, but she has pretty much every single night. I'm a germ phobe too, but she's short hair and I wipe her down with doggy wipes before bedtime. *creepy, i know* She is NEVER allowed near my pillow though.

I know how you feel - I'm cold hearted, but I love my dog. So innocent and kind, they are!

Melissa said...

I have been thinking about this alot lately! My dog sleeps with my partner and I and I often wonder if it's normal. We tried to kick him out last week and it lasted 3 nights and he was back! It didn't feel right without him! I never thought I could adore anything as much as I adore Hugo. I'm completely smitten by him! Sometimes I wonder (out loud to my partner) if I could ever love a baby as much as I love Hugo, and if I do, how on earth will my heart deal with all the love! I can't wait to find out...

jen said...

we call our dogs our practice-children and when friends with kids tell us stuff about babies or toddlers, etc we laugh at the similarities.
we've had our two dogs for 5 years - they have never slept in the bed. they aren't even allowed on the couch. but they have cozy pet beds in a corner of our room and other spots in the house so they go where we go. if we want to snuggle with them, we get down on the rug.

Brooklyn said...

Never in a million years did I think:
1) I would have a dog
2) I would let him sleep in the bed with us
Both happened and I can't remember what we did before Salvador! I will say that Sal sleeps at the very edge of the bed and unfortunately refuses to cuddle, ha. Happy Friday!

Jessica said...

hahah that picture is awesome. That dog is HUGE! and I love that your dog is named Sam Wiggins - and you call him that. So perfect.

Susan said...

Yes, absolutely...and Billy sleeps with us always. Even when babies arrive, he will still be there with us!

rachel kirk peterson said...

@ brooklyn: i feel the same. i also never thought i'd let my dog lick the crumbs off my fork and then continue to eat my meal with that same fork, but i do.

rebecca, my lab is super cuddly and even clingly, but he is way too big to sleep on the bed at night. plus, he sheds. we usually put a big blanket on the bed and cuddle at night, then my husband coaxes him into his bed so we can all sleep. it's funny how much you love a pet. this dog is my first, and i think of him as my child.

rebecca said...

ana-
ha! sam gets a kiss on the fo' head before bedtime too. i must say... if sam was a shedder, i doubt that we would allow him to sleep with us either.

sumslay-
not creepy! sam's paws are meticulously wiped off before he enters the apartment. nyc streets are nasty.

rachel-
i'm gonna go ahead and put it out there... sometimes i share an apple with sam. as in...i take a bite, he takes a bite. don't judge.

la domestique said...

Wow- that is a big dog in the bed! My husband and I are the proud parents of the cutest little dachshund named Minnie, and she sleeps in the bed every night. It's a pretty funny sight to wake up in the morning with a dog snoring in your face, and I love her so much.

Lonely Wife Project said...

We sleep with our two little ones and I would gladly let my 160 lbs Dane in the bed too if my 6'6", 270 lbs husband wouldn't feel cramped. My heart explodes when I think about them being home alone all day so they're basically attached to me when I get home.

Smith And Ratliff said...

I'm so shocked that so many people think it's gross and/or creepy! I love fresh white sheets as much as the next person, but believe it or not, even with a dog, they stay pretty white. Unless the dog rolls in something nasty, it's not like they're any dirtier than you are! Sheesh.

rebecca said...

sabra-
agreed. i'd carry sam around in a baby bjorn 24/7 if it were socially acceptable.

Gloria said...

Our Frenchie is not allowed in the bed due to his ridiculous snoring and crazy flailing limbs - sometimes he moves around so much in his crate that it's a good foot away from the wall the next day. Umm yeah, no thanks. Maybe if he was more well behaved like Sam Wiggins :-)

Ashley Blossom said...

We say that we shouldn't let our upcoming puppy sleep with us for the sake of us having our bed as "our bed" but we both know that just isn't true. We even let the pup we dogsit sleep in our bed. SOFTIES.

Lena at A Crimson Kiss said...

I feel particularly unfit to answer this question, as Admiral Fitzwallace (or Fitz, as we like to call him) is just a figment of our imaginations. But in my imagination, he sleeps in our bed.

Mamma Biscuit said...

OH MY GOODNESS, Sam Wiggins must make a great winter blanket! We sleep with Mamma Biscuit all the time and I wouldn't have it any other way!
;-)

Shoko said...

Such a sweet post. Also, Lena's comment above made me laugh out loud.

rebecca said...

lena-
admiral fitzwallace? awesome.

Eliza Jane said...

My cat Winston sleeps with me on my bed every night. I love waking up to him curled up by my knees, or my feet, or even little spooning me.

modest typewriter vintage said...

I know what you mean about never having loved someone the way you love your pup- I often find myself gazing at our terrier and feeling this squishy, tight throated, heart swelling emotion, and I switch between feeling silly and justified. She has taught me a lot about love that I know will transfer to when my husband and I have children, and it's the best feeling in the world!

Anonymous said...

Well. I have had a rescue dog for five years and love her like no other. So does my girlfriend of 3 years. It definitely preps you for parenthood in a certain way. But. Why is no one addressing the real question here?

(and I'm not trying to be TMI or gross, I'm genuinely curious)

If your dog sleeps on the bed, does that mean they are just sleeping or watching you having sex as well? If the mood strikes late at night, do you put them outside or leave them be? Again, I'm genuinely curious. As far as I am concerned, it is absolutely not an option for my dog to be in the room when her parents are getting intimate. As everyone says, dogs are like children, and that seems perverse to me.

As the owner of a very independent dog who has no interest in sleeping on our bed (even when we try and coax her with treats), I have always wondered how the sleeping-on-bed re: sex works, with clingier dogs and couples.

Thoughts? Experiences?

Erin@lovesomeblog.com said...

So I have three boys who I just love to pieces, but. . . . there's just something about my dog, Sweetiepie. I gaze at her lovingly and at least once a day say to my husband, "Do you even *know* how much I love her?" I never thought I'd be ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE WHO SLEEPS WITH HER DOG, but alas, it is one of the great joys of my day. My husband was against this idea, (not being a dog person himself), but it was one of those things that I told him was NON NEGOTIABLE.
As for the S-E-X question, above. . . that is the only time SP goes in her crate. Even I have boundaries.

Rebeka said...

This is probably going to make me sound like the worst, but I hate sleeping with animals. We got my cat a fuzzy, heated bed so he'll sleep in that instead. I love him to pieces, but sleeping with dogs/cats kills me. Allergies I think. It makes my face so itchy. I totally don't blame you for sleeping with SW though. I'd snuggle his fuzzy little face off if I were you <3

sea to shining port said...

My favorite part of the day is when we call our English Setter, Bodie, into bed with us and we throw our arms around him for a snuggle. Usually he's the first to become annoyed and heads back down to his own bed. But without fail, we wake up in the morning to find him back between us, usually hogging up all the pillows. xo Caitlin

sea to shining port said...

My favorite part of the day is when we call our English Setter, Bodie, into bed with us and we throw our arms around him for a snuggle. Usually he's the first to become annoyed and heads back down to his own bed. But without fail, we wake up in the morning to find him back between us, usually hogging up all the pillows. xo Caitlin

one claire day said...

We have 2 dogs: a beaglier and a cavoodle (beagle x cavalier & mini poodle x cavalier).

Pre- baby, they both used to sleep in our bed every night. I actually really miss their warm furry snuggly bodies sometimes.

Our daughter isn't a snuggler... she's a wriggler and prefers her own space. I'm often tempted to let the dogs back in to get my snuggle fix... but since we moved to a big house with a yard, they've become outside dogs and they seem to really love it. they snuggle together which is very cute!

Anonymous said...

I have 2 cats, and they both sleep in my bed. I totally understand the love you feel for Sam Wiggins. Pets are awesome and are part of the family.

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