over dinner, our friends started talking about the reacher vs the settler theory. have you heard of this? according to the theory, every relationship has a reacher and a settler. the reacher is the person who "reaches" for the other person out of their league, and the settler is the person who "settles" for their partner. a bit appalling, no?
i couldn't really trace this theory to anything reliable besides a 2010 article in cosmopolitan magazine. use your own judgement as to how reliable you want cosmo to be. i was expecting to find a whole psychological theory based off this notion in some sort of fancy schmancy online journal. i did not.
regardless, it makes people watching all the more interesting.
photos by the sartorialist.